Empaths and
Mediums
Today, I found out something about myself. I am
not just odd or different. There is an explanation for my
"strange" behavior. I am an empath. Possibly even with
other abilities. How nice it is to know that what I have lived with all
my life has a name and is shared by so many others.
The first time I had this experience, I was about
five years old. As I watched my older sister ride her bike, she
fell. I was the one however that burst into tears. It was as if I
could feel her fear. She only scratched her knee but I couldn't explain
to my mother why I was the one crying instead of my sister.
I have lived my life being able to "see"
into people. To feel the pain in their soul and be able to understand why
they behave in ways they do. I always assumed it was just being sensitive
and could never quite understand why people couldn't figure out how I knew
these feelings they had. I instinctively know when I meet someone if I
can trust that person.
I have been able to pick up a newspaper or hear
something on the news and sometimes, know immediately that the story being
reported or printed is not true. Though it has happened quite a few times
since, the perfect example was the Susan Smith case. I can remember the
day the story broke and I read about it in the paper. I told my co-worker
the woman was lying. That what she said was not possible and it didn't
happen as she claimed. I couldn't understand or explain why I felt that
way, I just knew it.
A couple of nights before the 9/11 attack, my son
and I had gone out for a bit. I noticed something in the sky that night.
It was just something about the moon, the sky seemed to stand out. On our
return trip to home, I saw it again. I told my son that something very
bad was coming. That is an example of what I call my "bad
vibes". Though that was the first I can recall that it pertained to
something so catastrophic outside of my family. Usually, the vibes pertain to
myself or family and from not listening to them, I have received a broken foot,
and been in two car accidents. I could never explain what these bad feelings
were or why I had them, I only knew that I learned if I didn't listen,
something always happened. Sometimes the feeling will last for weeks, other
times just a few days but always it is like a weight that gets heavier and
heavier.
I also seem to either attract spirits or choose
homes to live in that have them. Is this also a part of being an
empath? I have more personal "ghost" stories than I know what
to do with. Everything from simple messages to encounters.
I have also had the dreams throughout my life of
things to come. Usually they are small and only consequential to myself
or my family. I always thought again that I was just sensitive.
The major point of this story however is to thank
you and everyone who have posted empath sites. Without the knowledge
these sites have provided, I would still be lost as to what I am and would
still believe that I am just odd and different as I have always believe myself
to be. Thank you for the site and for helping me to know there are many
others like me.
Your encounters with ghosts are
also typical of life as an empath - somehow from the other side, spirits can
tell who will react to them... my guides once jokingly told me that there was a
sign posted on the astral plane to my house - seems I have agreed to deliver
message and offer help, with the proviso that they deliver their message and
leave...
I think it would be a good idea for you to take up Reiki - will give you some
good tools to work with and I hope you meditate daily to help you stay clear. Also
read the works of folks like Carolyn Myss, Barbara Brennan, Craig
Hamilton-Parker and James Von Praagh... these will all give you some insight on
your abilities.
Thanks for the kind words... years ago I was guided to be here with this work
at this particular time... it is wonderful to know that we are accomplishing
our purpose. Lotsa LLLove, Danielle
On Being a
Natural Empath
by M.L. Danielle Daoust
Webster defines empathy as
"the capacity for participation in
another's feelings".
Ship's Counselor Deanna Troy, of the Star Trek Enterprise is an
excellent example of a "natural empath" - and she teaches us
how empaths and psychics will probably serve our communities in the not so
distant future.
Deanna Troy also reminds us that
we have much to learn about being an empath... it is so rare for anyone of us
to be in touch with our own feelings, that is next to impossible for most of us
to reach out and participate in how other's feel... yet we do, every day,
mostly without knowing it. When did you last laugh or cry at someone else's sad
moment - whether it was on TV or in life? Every time we react with emotion to
other's emotions, we are being empathetic. How often have you said, "I
feel for you!" - and meant it? That was your natural empathy coming
through... out of caring, wanting to reach out to another to take away some of
their hurt, or at least to understand and soothe it... that is empathy.
But there is more to this
business of being an empath than meets the eye. Can you think of a time
when you were surrounded by sad or angry people and soon found yourself feeling
angry or sad yourself, for no reason of your own? Have you noticed that
when you enter a room full of sick, depressed or hostile folks, you soon find
yourself sharing their feelings? How often have you come away from a
hospital visit feeling a bit sick yourself? Too often we take on energy from
others without knowing it... some of us, in fact, are walking energy sponges,
silent empaths, sopping up others' negative energy because we naturally want to
balance and heal wherever we go... The trouble is that we're blind, deaf and
dumb to what we are doing and eventually taking on all that negative energy
from other folks will make us sick ourselves, or somehow put us on a
self-destruct path that eventually gets us into serious trouble, unwittingly...
While all of us are empathetic to some extent, there are some among us many of
these walking energy sponges - folks who are "natural empaths".
Like Deanna of the Enterprise, they easily tap into what others are feeling,
and are often talented healers.
If
you suspect that you are a natural empath, then it will be important for you to
begin to notice the energy work that you are doing from moment to moment and to
become exceptionally conscious, awake to your own feelings so you can begin to
identify when sensations are coming from within - or from some external
source. I usually recommend that natural empaths study Reiki so they have
some tools to work with and can gain a deeper appreciation of the dynamics at
work. And most of all, I recommend that they lighten up, do everything
they can to raise their vibrational frequencies so they can avoid attracting
some of the nasty stuff.
Over last few years I have been feeling sorry for
other people and felt as if I was feeling there problems and for no reason at
all would get depressed. I also am sick of dreaming which people I will see or
where I may go every other morning. At times I could be sitting there and I get
a picture of nonsense things in my mind ,which mean nothing to me,but may
reflect my freind or family members going there maybe 2 or 3 days later. What's
bizzare is that whenever I speak to someone at any call center there computers
crash all the time. please explain to me am I freak or just normal. Saro
You're not a freak, but it will
be important for you to begin to acknowledge what is going on... you are an
empath, and it would be worth your while to take up something like Reiki so you
can run some of energy that you have stored up in you - that is why the
computers crash... one of the lessons of working in this dimension with these
abilities is about learning to modulate your energy frequencies so you can
worth with electronic equipment... mostly I can, but I had to stop trying to
tape readings years ago... no matter what kind of recorder I use, they burn out
after a few readings... and even when clients bring their own, often they won't
work, even when they were tested moments earlier outside my home... the
best way to keep the energy modulated is to run it - use it for some good where
you can... that is why I suggest reiki... Hope that helps some, Lotsa LLLove,
Danielle
Dear Fellow Empath,
You need to find others like yourself. Isolation, as you know, will not
shut down your empathy. What you resist - persists. Love yourself
and your gift. Your problems are a chance to change. What you have
done has not worked. Now, turn it around and love yourself enough to use
your empathy to heal. Is there a Transendental Meditation group near by
who could help you learn to meditate and get back intouch with yourself?
Any New Age counselors?
Be a good example to your boys and show them how to use their gift to protect
themselves and others.
Be easy with it and let go of hate, you only hurt yourself with that emotion.
Love, Laura
I need your help. I am experiencing severe
emotions(Empath) related and don't want them. I have had this since I was
8 years old. Two of my sons have it. I am not handling it well as I
have not been taught how to. My grandmother died before she could teach
me. I need to help my sons as well as myself handle this
curse. I never wanted it and it keeps getting worse. I can't go
anywhere or be around people. I hate my life. I don't want my sons
to end up the same way. My life is done. Theirs is just
beginning. I want them to be happy. I don't want this for
them. My emotional turmoil includes but is not limited to: Thought
intervention, Thought projection, Severe emotional distress (I feel everyone's
emotions simultaneously very strongly) thus causing me extreme
distress. I don't recognize my own feelings any more. I hate my
life. I have no life. The only way I can turn it off is to be
cold and unloving. To develop hate. I don't want my sons to feel
what I feel. Can you help!
It is easy to learn how to
just accept it and how to control it. I was like you at one time. I stopped
going into malls as it upset me so much.
Suggestion to you is to learn to
tell yourself before you leave the house that you will not read or sense others
feelings etc. As your angels or whom ever to put white light around you when
you go out to prevent you from these things happening, that you do not
want.(Learn also to put white light or protection around yourself)
You simply tell yourself you
will only have these feelings when you are ready and want them.
Also a good thing to know is
that it is against all rights of others to even try to pick up or sense things
about them, unless you first ask there permission.
This worked for me and others I
know.. I did however take a course on how to stop this from happening to me..
But all in all, in a nut shell is what I learnt.. Saving you many dollars and
hours.. good luck and white light Barbi
Advice for Natural Empaths
Lighten up - Seriously!!!
Following are three letters from visitors to our site, folks are natural
empaths, and with them, along with the responses and recommendations I offered
for helping them to develop and work with their abilities...
Perhaps you can
help me...
When sleeping, I dream of events that will happen,
or are happening to others... particularly violent or bad acts...When meeting
someone new, or for that matter, speaking to anyone, I take on the burden of
their emotions... Everyone says that they feel better after speaking with me
when they are down, but I always end up worse. It's like they transfer the
emotion to me...
When I meet with someone who is sick, they are
instantly renewed and within an hour, I am suffering... Particularly from
stress related problems... I also feel breaks of people who are close to me,
and when the doctor sets it, the pain is unbearable. Don't even think about the
girls I know who are giving birth...
I seem to understand people without exchanging a
word... I know their thoughts and fears. I can answer their questions without
even hearing them. Except with my husband... or anyone I spend A LOT of time
with...It's becoming a serious burden... Any suggestions? Or am I just an
average person who is once again, taking on too much? Thank you!
Well dear, you DO, have a
problem! You are naturally what I call "an energy sponge" and your
natural healing and nurturing nature wants to make everyone around you feel a
whole lot better... but you don't have to take it on, to help others feel
better... I strongly recommend that you take a course in Reiki, there are others
that could provide some of the same benefits but I feel strongly that a program
of reiki will help you learn how draw the negativity off of others without
taking it on yourself...
I suggest that you begin to explore
your gifts as a natural healer, taking some training will help you avoid the
painful parts here... That said, I do also sense that there's more to this
business of taking on others' pain - in order to fully clear this situation,
you will need to look at the places in you where you feel sick, weak, weary,
angry or in pain... you see, what goes on when you take this painful stuff on
is that your own vibrational frequency is so low when you are exposed to the
negativity that it is literally drawn into your energy fields as if
magnetized...
I once had a powerful young
psychic from Ottawa contact me because of his distress over the many difficult
scenes he was witnessing in his mind - "if there's something awful going
to occur around me anywhere, I'll see it, and I'm tired"... Although he
found it easy to be loving of others, he had a very hard time loving himself or
generating any love for anyone close to him.... the trouble was, this young man
was also very angry and hurt by life, had been badly abused as a boy and had
never dealt with any of his issues... the deeper he got into his psychic work,
the more this inner negativity was showing. Because our dark sides act like a
magnet, they draw to us everything we are most afraid of.... and ultimately the
only way to stop the nightmares and the dark visions is to uplift your soul
from within... everything from prayer and meditation, a focus on loving and
caring, not only for others, but for oneself and one's life and the world, to
reading funny books, watching funny movies, playing with children, walking in
the park, hanging out with the chickens... whatever turns you on, whatever
makes you feel good inside... the more you raise your vibrational frequency
with love and laughter, kindness and gentleness, the more you call for your own
healing, the less troubled you will be with these incidents...
It's
not an easy path, this path of healing and psychic work - it requires that we
be diligent in clearing our own spaces - and in learning to walk lightly on the
earth - this means being light of spirit - filled with love and laughter. In
this state, the negative energy just can't resonate with us and will drop away,
like water off a duck's back... So, lighten up, sweetheart, and you'll find it
easier to help others lighten up without taking yourself down... I hope
these notes are useful to you... Best wishes and Lotsa LLLove, Danielle
Learn to Use Those Natural Empathetic and Healing Abilities
Hi all,, Just a quick comment on my psychic
abilities. Do people who you live with and work for have direct cause of
illness on you? For example, my boss was very sick heading for a break down,
then had a bladder infection, when I also got a bladder infection and so on, or
am I just crazy, when I am relatively healthy!! People affect me if they have
bad vibes. For example a guy in car I was travelling with made me so sick I
just wanted to jump from the car, when he told me he had cancer!! I can sense
too many things, what do I do?? This is mainly family and people who are
prejudiced. Love all cheers!!!
From the sounds of it, hon, you
are a natural empath, and probably have some healing abilities - you might find
that this ability ceases to be a problem for you when you begin to consciously
work with it and are then able to protect yourself somewhat from taking on
others' stuff... what goes on here is that your energetic soul-self reaches out
to those around you to try to absorb some of the negative energy that is
affecting those you care for... I strongly recommend that you take a course in
Reiki, I'm sure you can find someone around you who is qualified to share what
they know with you- and you'd probably find Barbara Brennan's work "hands of light" very
useful... Best wishes and Lotsa LLLove, Danielle
Trust Your Knowings
I stumbled upon your site by way of researching
the great Edgar Cayce.....I must say, this site has more information on what I
am interested in than in all the books I have read! I was especially
intrigued by the "Are You a Natural Empath" article. It describes me
to a "T." I have always "absorbed" the feelings of
those around me and sometimes it felt like a burden. I can always read
the moods of others, feel their fears........I always seem to know what they
are searching for. In the past month or so, another phenomena has
occurred. A woman I work with whom I have always felt close confided in
me that she was afraid she had breast cancer (her mom had just passed away from
the same thing) because she was experiencing the same kind of shoulder and arm
pain. I reached out to comfort her and immediately upon placing my hands
on her, knew she did NOT have breast cancer, but it was a problem with the
"rotator cuff" (I believe it's called that?) in her shoulder. I
also immediately "knew" somehow? that she would be required to have a
minor operation, would be out of work a short period of time, but that all
would be ok. How did I know this? I certainly couldn't tell her,
although I was 100% sure in my heart and soul of what I "knew." I
could only wish her well and tell her I was sure all would work out. I have
not been able to do this before or since, but it is quite puzzling! I also have
the ability to tell if a woman is with child. Also, if a woman will never
bear her own child. I for lack of a better term, call it a
"knowing." Most interesting, but as I said, puzzling........I love
your website and it's opened up a whole world to me that I shall continue to
utilize. Thank you for being there! Best wishes, Peggy
Well, hon, I'd say you ought to
trust your knowings, that you have some natural healing ability and that it
would be well worth your time and energy to study reiki and also probably
Barbara Brennan's Hands of Light work. you might find it was well worth
your while! Lotsa LLLove, Danielle